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On this life journey, I’m at a place where I’m here to report some startling news:

THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH EVERYTHING.

Yes.

What I mean is this:

If you are someone on a personal quest for righteousness-be it with your physical health, your diet (what you eat and/or how you eat it), manifesting the life you want (spouses, relationships, houses, cars, finances, peace of mind, etc.) or some kind of spiritual enlightenment (meditation, religious practices, etc.) then you’ve probably noticed something. (And if you haven’t noticed it, then you sense it but can’t put your finger on it yet)….

That “it” is that THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH EVERYTHING.

That means:

one-what you do will never be enough

two-there will always be different people saying their way is right and that their way works.

three-Like #2, there will be diametrically opposing thoughts, ideas, methods, laws, beliefs causing frustration and confusion among those seeking truth

At this point on my journey, I’m beginning to realize something: TRUTH IS RELATIVE.

I have some new “truths” I go by now-some very recently. Here they are:

one-BE CRITICAL THINKERS. USE YOUR INTERNAL DIVINELY-BESTOWED FACULTIES TO FORM YOUR OWN BELIEF SYSTEMS IN LIFE. THESE “DIVINE” FACULTIES INCLUDE YOUR INTUTITION, YOUR INTELLECT, YOUR ABILITY TO DRAW YOUR OWN CONCLUSIONS THROUGH DEDUCTION AND INDUCTION OF INFORMATION AND TO ULTIMATELY CONNECT THE DOTS OF WHAT YOU’RE SEEING, HEARING, OR READING.

two-QUESTION EVERYTHING. DON’T GIVE GURUS, HOLLYWOOD CELEBRITIES, POLITICIANS, LIFE COACHES, “EXPERTS”, DOCTOR OZ, LUMINARIES, OR ANY SUPPOSED “AUTHORITY FIGURES” THE POWER TO MOLD YOUR REALITY FOR YOU. REMEMBER, EVERYTHING YOU SEE OR READ IS JUST INFORMATION TO BE INTERPRETED. HOW YOU INTERPRET IT IS WHAT MAKES YOU YOU. PROBLEM IS, WE’RE TOLD HOW TO INTERPRET INFORMATION, WHICH COMPROMISES OUR PERSONAL INTERGRITY AND FREE WILL. DRAW YOU OWN CONCLUSIONS. NOBODY IS SUPPOSED TO AGREE 100 PERCENT ON EVERYTHING! THERE’S A WORD FOR THAT-IT’S CALLED CLONING.

three-TREAT TRUTH LIKE A BUFFET; FILL YOUR “PLATE” WITH ONLY THE THINGS YOU WANT, NEED, AND THAT TASTE GOOD TO YOU. I KNOW, WE’VE BEEN BRAINWASHED TO BELIEVE TRUTH IS THIS UNIVERSAL ABSOLUTE THING FOR EVERYONE AND IT IS WRONG TO “PICK AND CHOOSE” BUT THAT IS A COMPLETE LIE.

four-STAND UP FOR YOURSELF; NO LONGER ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE’S TRUTHS TO COMPROMISE YOUR FREE WILL TO CHOOSE YOUR OWN. THIS ALSO MEANS NOT ALLOWING THEM TO JUDGE YOU BASED ON THEIR BELIEFS AND PERCEPTIONS OF REALITY. REMEMBER, WE’RE ALL SEARCHING AND GROWING. I’VE SEEN PEOPLE SO ANIMATE THAT THEIR WAY WAS TRUE TURN AROUND AND DENOUNCE THE SAME “TRUTH” A SHORT TIME LATER UNDER THE GUISE OF “NEW DEVELOPMENTS”. I WOULD GET SO PISSED OFF AT THESE PEOPLE, THINKING THEM TO BE HYPOCRITES AND SOMETIMES HUSTLERS TO THE MASSES OF PEOPLE WHO CONVENIENTLY GIVE THEMSELVES A WAY OUT AT EVERY CONTRADICTION TO BENEFIT THEMSELVES.

BUT I AM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE GIVING THEM THAT KIND OF POWER OVER ME, ANYWAY. THEY CAN SAY WHAT THEY WANT, IT’S MY CHOICE TO BELIEVE THEM.

I get that now. And I hope more of us start getting it.

I’m starting to question EVERYTHING. I mean even the stuff that is deemed unquestionable.

I did that with religion. I was ex-communicated.

Now I’m doing that with Universal Laws. I’m beginning to wonder if these Uniersal Laws are solid as they say or if that is just their belief in them being unchangable is what makes them unchangable. In short, I’m wondering if our power of BELIEF is more than we’ve been told.

You probably have your own “ponderings” from things you’ve observed. My advice is to join me in following those leads. I think we’re onto something.

In “Idomewed” fashion, remember to say “I do” to yourself first-now and always.

Have a blessed holiday season, too 🙂

Love,
Helen

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As you can see, for the past few posts my self-empowerment blog has been dedicated to my own self-empowerment more than anyone else’s.

And I’m okay with that.

Maybe it helps someone some kind of way. Perhaps it will resonate with someone else’s struggle. Or it spurs them on to think about their own circumstances in a constructive way. In my life, I have found that the things that help the most are when people allow themselves to be vulnerable, honest and can allow people a front row seat to someone else just like them working out issues in real time. Hopefully they will be inspired in the sense that if this person can do it, I can too.

We exist in a world where the master game is to have it all together. To be the “expert”, the “guru”, the “master teacher” the celebrity icon…

In other words, it’s about the image, the mirage, the illusion.

Forget about being honest with anyone else, can we be honest with ourselves?

That, my friends, is the question I constantly seek to answer.

There are reasons people would literally rather die than to face their own truth. One of these reasons is that deep down, they are afraid.

I’ve heard it stated that there are only 2 things that really exist in this universe: fear & love.

And our fear drives us to live lies (be it complete lies or half-truths) and choke out our own honesty and authenticity. We’re afraid that if we are really honest with ourselves then we will die.

We fear that:

The truth will literally destroy us.
We’ll lose everything.

That’s what the soap operas and t.v. dramas thrive on. It’s the same storyline: what will Deidre do if her fiance’ finds out she really is in love with another man? And that man is her fiance’s brother?

Dah-dun-duuuuunnnnnnnnn!!!!

All this tells us that the truth is not a good idea.

Yeah, we know the Jesus guy said it will set us free. But it got him nailed to a cross.

(Just being honest).

And phrases like, “the truth hurts”, “the truth is ugly”, and the subsequent “God don’t like ugly” sets the stage for us to run the other way from anything too real.

Lately, the challenge has been for me to be totally honest with myself. This marraige to myself I call “Idomewed” is beckoning me to take it to the next level-not in the performance-based way, but the way of the heart. The longer you’re with someone, the more intimacy is required to deepen the bond and maintain it.

But back to today’s question: does honesty kill us or make us stronger?

I’m finding it to be a fear-based myth that we won’t survive the truth. Being honest with ourselves is never easy, but…what the hell is? And what is easy that’s also equally as worthwhile as what’s gained?

That sounds so awesome, philospohically speaking, I know. But in the “real” world, (or the matrix-take your pick), there comes a point where the lies wear thin for even the best of us. Bernie Madoff eventually got caught, remember?

When I speak of being honest, I mean the little things. I am referring to the emotions or feelings deep inside us. I allowed myself to be dissapointed about certain people from my past who let me down. One woman in particualr I loved as a friend and gave alot to monetarily, time-wise and energy wise. It was not reciprocated as I was not even invited to her wedding, never the less being asked to be in it.

That really hurt me and usually when she came to mind, I would practically slap my own wrists, telling myself that I should have seen the signs that she wasn’t a real friend to me in the first place and that I shouldn’t be petty about being in a wedding.

Well, the other night, I was in bed and for some reason she came to mind. (I think it’s because I’m currently writing a memoir about my life which is bringing up lots of memories and emotions). I automatically started to go into a wrist-slapping session when I realized what was happening. I said to myself, “Wait. It’s okay that you were dissapointed. It’s okay that you loved her.”

I’m not gonna lie. Being honest with myself was painful. But honesty brings a good kind of pain. It’s similar to the burn you feel working out (exercising). Once that passes, it is well worth it, because it makes you better. See, I have been in pain many times in my life and many of those times it has been unproductive. I think that’s what depression may be. When we dwell on emotions and thoughts that don’t serve us and actually beat us down-usually because we feel we deserve to feel bad.

After the inital pain of the moment of honesty, it feels better. Comforting. Realizing that it’s going to be okay. That I’m okay.

It (honesty) didn’t destroy me… In fact, it actually freed me.

Maybe that’s the metaphor for Christ’s crucifixtion: dying to the lies and being resurrected in the truth.

I found that when you can be honest with yourself, you find the self-acceptance that so many people talk so loosely about along with all the other “selfs”: self-love and self-esteem. When you accept your own feelings and emotions, it opens up the door for alot of good things to come into your life experience.

And I am starting to think that this self-acceptance may be the missing piece to why some of us are not attracting what we want into our lives. Lack of permission to feel and be who we are now has to interfere with the flow of the universe bringing us what we desire.

Anyway, another day, another experience. Lots of thankfulness for it all. I’ve been up and I’ve been down. It’s called being alive. Everything being perfect is not living. Everything being awful is not living, either. Let’s be appreciative for it all and continue living, loving & being!

Sending you peace & internal ease,
Helen

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